What is a Soulmate? - Debunking the Myths Once and for All

One of the major reasons why most people are not in soulmate relationships is not that they don't believe in soulmates, but that they don't really understand what a soulmate is. The word "soulmate" has become almost stigmatized these days due to various misconceptions about it. This is a real shame, because a soulmate relationship is one the most fulfilling things one can experience in life, and a concept that definitely needs some clarification.


So, what do we mean when we say this mysterious word "soulmate"? First let's examine what a soulmate ISN'T.
A soulmate is not someone whom you have EVERYTHING in common with. Of course, you have to agree on core fundamental issues, such as your values and outlook on life, but it is a myth that your personality and interests have to be a perfect match. In fact, sometimes opposite personalities make the best relationships, because you balance each other out.
A soulmate is not someone whom you never argue or disagree with. Soulmate couples on average have just as many arguments as any other human relationship; the difference is how they deal with them and how they don't let them escalate into something ugly. Clearly, this is much easier to do in a soulmate relationship because soulmates to see clearer through each others' issues and emotional problems and realize that whatever they are arguing about is usually just petty nonsense. If it's not petty, then they find a way to resolve their differences in a way that works for both of them.
Soulmates are not "joined at the hip". While they probably spend more time together than average couples, they still value their independence and realize that each is his/her own person. If that's not the case, then such a relationship is unhealthy. In a healthy soulmate relationship both parties see each other as a valuable attribute to each other's lives, rather than a vital necessity.

So, what IS a soulmate then?
A soulmate is someone whom you FEEL like you could wake up to every single day, and you wouldn't want it any other way. It is someone who connects with and values your true self, not with the external image you put on for show on a daily basis. A soulmate can easily see through that image, and FEEL your true self, even in an argument. A soulmate is someone whom you FEEL fully comfortable with and someone who you want to share everything with (grief and joy, feelings, income, your past history and future plans etc.). Your soulmate FEELS what you feel, and cannot be happy if you are not.
I keep emphasizing the word FEEL, because that is a key word that the whole definition of "soulmate". A soulmate is someone you feel and someone who feels you on almost the same level that you feel yourself. You are completely connected on the fundamental level of subatomic particles which you both consist of.

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